1-(809)-760-0150

Tips For The Perfect Threesome

Couple enjoying a threesomeAre you ready to experience the perfect threesome?

People are always searching for something better. We are constantly bombarded with messages about the things in our lives that could be improved. Better furniture, better health, better laundry detergent and better sex.

Most of the things that could be better are just fine the way they are. Sure, you might just need whiter whites but, really, how much better could a new and improved anything really be?

However, sex is one of those areas where the constant search for improvement is a great thing. You should never stop looking to better your own sex life. It’s one of those areas where the journey is just as enjoyable as the eventual destination.

When we think of the best ways to improve our sex lives, we inadvertently seem to gravitate to ways to make it more adventurous and exciting. What could be more adventurous and exciting than adding another person into the mix?

Once considered a social taboo, and still somewhat frowned upon in some societal circles, the threesome is one of the greatest ways to make your sex life better.

So, once you’ve decided that you need to add this wonderful life adventure into your bank of experiences, it’s important that you understand how to really do it right and what you’re really getting yourself into.

The good news is that we are right in the middle of a cultural revolution. There has never been a time, outside of the swinging 1970’s, to find people open to the prospect of a threesome than today. Many couples eagerly explore their sexual desires on an erotic vacation or other planned adventure. Much like many of the other things from our past that were once taboo, people are more open to their own sexual exploration than ever.

Odds are, you’ve had this talk with that special (or willing) someone in your life and you’ve both decided that it’s time to introduce another into the mix. Congratulations!

I have a few guidelines for you to follow to help you make sure that your next menage is amazing.

Finding the Right Participant
Once you’ve decided to introduce a third person into your bedroom, it’s important to make sure that the person is a good fit. It has to be someone who is open and willing to be part of your sexual exploration.

You and your partner need to be upfront about why you are including this person into your life. Be upfront with what you want from them.

You might think it would be a good idea to introduce a common friend or acquaintance into the mix since this is someone with whom you both are familiar. I would strongly caution you against this way of thought.

The person you want to introduce should be viewed as a vehicle for sexual exploration. Someone you already have a history with might put a different spin on the experience. You or your partner might find some prior, unresolved feelings surface during your threesome.

Many couples like to explore with a threesome while on vacation or with an experienced professional courtesan. This takes some of the guesswork out of finding a willing partner and the odds of that other person surfacing in your lives later on is minimal.

Address the Jealousy Issue / Communication
You have to communicate with your partner before you decide to engage in a threesome. Even if it’s just for a night, it’s important that the two of you have a very direct and frank discussion about what it means to bring a third person into your bed.

The first time there will definitely be some feelings of jealousy that surface. Let’s face it, most people don’t like to share, especially when it comes to our lovers.

You might be extremely turned on watching your girl pleased by another woman but are you prepared to watch her orgasm in a way that you might not have been able to do previously? ( Yes, escorts can orgasm with their clients) Is she ready to watch you be intimate with another woman? Will she feel insecure about herself after?

These are all issues that need to be addressed before you decide to take this on. If you both understand that there will be some initial jealousy and you communicate your fears about this, you’ll be better prepared to deal with those feelings as they arise.

Set Ground Rules
This is just as important as finding the right person. You and your partner need to talk about what you are ok with and what you are not before things get heated.

Respect the ground rules once you are in the passionate embrace of your new adventure. What is off limits? Maybe she doesn’t want you to kiss the other woman? Do you want the other person to leave immediately afterwards? These are all issues that should be discussed before you bring in someone new.

Be Safe
This is a bit of a no brainer, but it’s important that you practice safe sex when involved in a threesome. The last thing that you want out of your experience is to have something that will stick with you for the rest of your life (a.k.a an STD).

Stockpile plenty of condoms and dental dams. You can’t be too safe when it comes to adding a third into your sex life. It’s a very easy thing to provide and will help your mental well-being (not to mention your physical).

Enjoy Yourselves
A threesome is about pleasure. So, make sure that everyone involved leaves feeling satisfied. The best part about having a threesome is taking your time and enjoying all the participants.

If you can pull it off, try to make sure that everyone finishes together. That might be the next level but it’s very rewarding. Go slow! I can’t stress this part enough. It might be a while until you decide to do this again, or it may just be a one and done experience. Regardless, all participants should find it to be sexually satisfying and rewarding.

Get out there, and have a great time. Sex should be fun and having a threesome might just be the adventure you need!

Share this
twitter
About Adley S.

I'm an avid reader and photographer with a tendency to color outside the lines. You may find me in a bookstore, a museum, or jumping out of an airplane (preferably naked) . I'm into lifestyle activities, adventure sports and almost anything to do with being outside in nature.