How To Have A Sexy Threesome – A Couples Guide

Climbing Mount Everest. Swimming with dolphins. Visiting the Pyramids. Have a sexy threesome?

There’s no doubt that among the other common life goals, experiencing a sexy threesome is right up there among the most coveted and the #1 fantasy for men, for a reason. We all have friends who’ve had them and if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll admit that you respect them all the more for it.

After all, it takes a high level of sex appeal, courage and charisma to not only bed one lovely lady, but two. Not to mention, there is a certain amount of technique to keep everyone happy and unlock their sexual potential.

Feel like you’re up for the task? There are a few considerations and preparations you’d be wise to make beforehand in order for the entire evening to go off without a hitch. It’s not as difficult as you might think to learn how to have a threesome and sexy threesomes can be the key to moving your relationship into new, satisfying territory.

Fortify your Foundation Beforehand

If you are not in a relationship and lucky enough to have the opportunity to bed two willing women, there’s little in the way of consideration when it comes to repercussions.

However, if you are committed to one partner, you need to ensure that emotional needs are taken care of both before and after the event.

Jealousy and resentment, whether it is overt or not, can easily destroy the foundation of any relationship. When you invite another woman into your bed, the chances of these nasties popping up are very high.

Your girlfriend or wife will need to know that you are committed to her completely and the threesome is an adventure you are going on together.  This means that you will probably have to have more than one reassuring conversation with her wherein you listen to her feelings, support her and dispel insecurities.

If you can pull this off properly, a sexy threesome may open the door to a whole new level in your relationship and bring you closer than ever. However, if you ignore her feelings or dismiss her you can be assured that things will get very dark, very quickly.

What if you’re lucky enough to have a woman who isn’t the jealous type? What if you’re the one more likely to get a bit rattled by increasing your ‘intimacy circle’? If this is the case in your relationship, you need to be sure that you clearly communicate how you are feeling.

Don’t be duped by pointless stereotypes when it comes to what is ‘manly’ or not. Keep her in the loop when it comes to your emotional responses and express whatever insecurities you might have along the way. She’ll appreciate that kind of honesty much more than a sudden blow up a few weeks down the line when you’ve had enough of trying to ‘keep it together’.

If you’re both on the same page when it comes to sharing your sexual relationship, handling any hurdles will be that much easier.

Sourcing the Right Girl for a Threesome

One of the biggest pitfalls when it comes to arranging a successful threesome is finding the right partner. Obviously you both need to be attracted to her and she needs to feel the same about you in order for it to work.

Luckily, finding casual sex is much easier these days thanks to sites like Tinder, Craigslist or Plenty of Fish.  You can browse profiles together, discuss your choices and then hopefully, arrange a meeting with a willing companion.

It’s a good idea to meet for a drink beforehand to ensure that there is the right chemistry between the three of you. Inviting them over right away for riotous sex with just a (no doubt doctored) photograph to go from is potentially dangerous as well as embarrassing.

Like any dating scenario, it should be approached with a good dose of caution. There are more than a handful of nutty folks out there, particularly on adult personal sites. You’d be wise to make an effort to keep your bunnies out of the stockpot, if you get my drift…

Many couples decide to hire an escort rather than meet with a non-professional in order to avoid unnecessary complications.

There are reasons people use an escort. These women are not only experienced, but are not approaching the event with anything even remotely approaching emotional involvement. They are discreet, non-involved and won’t start creeping your Facebook or sending uncomfortable texts once the threesome has ended.

In addition to this, you won’t have to worry about any possibility of a relationship developing between the three of you. This means that jealousy, the great destroyer of ménage-a-trois everywhere, has less of a chance of developing.

You and your partner can approach the experience knowing that it is nothing more than an exciting, sexy adventure between the two of you.  If that isn’t an aphrodisiac, I don’t know what is!

Watch your manners!

You’ve found the perfect partner, you and your girlfriend/wife are in agreement when it comes to emotional needs and you’re ready to go. The stage is set, wine has been ingested in copious amounts and, be still my beating heart, it’s actually happening to you!

As excited as you might be, you still need to watch your manners in order for things to go seamlessly. This doesn’t mean ensuring that you are well manscaped- although that would be nice if it were so simple.

Watching your manners in a threesome means that you need to divide your attentions between the women properly.  If you find yourself entranced by your ‘visitor’ to the point that your girlfriend is being neglected, you can expect more than a little trouble later.

You should try to consider the three in your threesome as an addition, not the focus. Spend as much time pleasuring your woman as you can, inviting the other girl in when she is ready. If the girls want to play, let them. If they don’t and would rather play with you, who’s complaining?

The key is to let your woman lead the way, particularly if this is her first time. Women ‘s sexuality and emotional responses are tied together tightly and if she’s uncomfortable, you can be certain that everything will come to a grinding halt.

Obviously having a sexy threesome isn’t something to be taken lightly when you’re in a relationship. If you’re a single guy, it is far less demanding emotionally. However, this doesn’t mean that it can’t be done.

There are a growing amount of couples that are opening their relationships up and exploring their sexuality together. Everything from taking an erotic vacation to enjoying a threesome is fair game if you're open-minded. Many couples find the perfect threesome experience awaits them at a top sex resort. You can create a sensational experience for the both of you and make it something to really remember.

All that it takes is a gentle hand, a lot of talking and more than your share of pinot noir – oh, and some Barry White too…that always helps!